Marriage Problem #5: Putting Children First, Part 4 (TMF:951)

Peace to Live By: Marriage Problem #5: Putting Children First, Part 4 (TMF:951) - Daniel Litton
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       For any children who are listening, when you do what your parents tell you, this makes everyone happy. You may not want to do it now, but it will make you happy later that you did. When parents work very hard doing everything their children want, without taking into perspective what they need, they can become overly tired and burned out. And when a parent runs out of gas, this puts pressure on the other partner in the marriage. You may not act correctly because you’re too tired. You may get after your spouse, or your children in ways that you shouldn’t. You can become critical of their behaviors. Being too burned out can definitely lead to negative symptoms. It’s not selfish for a father to put his foot down and say that enough is enough with what the children want. He is the head and is to lead, and he should decide what’s in the best interest of everyone in the family—not just his children. He should consider what is in the best interest of his wife, and himself. We can only truly love others if we love ourselves first.